Authentic Boundaries

They define the ways in which we interact with ourselves and within our relationships, how we treat ourselves and how we allow others to treat us.

Boundaries are how we let others know what is okay and is not okay when interacting with us and what let us know what's okay and not okay for others.

An example of this is saying "no" to requests that feel overwhelming, limiting physical contact with others, communicating our needs and expectations clearly, and maintaining a level of privacy and autonomy in our relationships.

Saying "no" is unfortunately incredibly challenging for many of us who relate to people pleasing tendencies.

Fearing that saying "no" will cause loss of love, acceptance, belonging, connection and/or safety.

But what we don't often realise is that setting and maintaining personal boundaries is VITAL for maintaining healthy relationships and protecting our well-being.

Boundaries actually ALLOW us to create a sense of safety, security, and respect in our interactions with others. They are how we honour and respect one another and live in harmony.

If you’re someone that struggles with creating personal boundaries you may notice that you tend to prioritise the needs of others and find yourself people-pleasing and over-giving to the point of detriment, sacrificing your own needs and desires to keep others happy.

If you lack the ability to set boundaries with yourself and others, you may also be experiencing feelings of overwhelm and burnout.

Many of us have a fear of setting boundaries, worrying that it will make us unlovable, mean, or rude and that having boundaries will push everyone away, leaving them feeling alone and isolated.

This fear runs deep as we are tribal beings, wired for connection and we deeply desire to belong.

Lacking the ability to set boundaries often stems from feelings of unworthiness and undeserving of respect

You may find yourself getting stuck playing out the same patterns of people pleasing and over giving, disconnecting you even further from your authentic self, which can lead to states of depression and other forms of dis-ease and dis-harmony in your life.

In this program I will be supporting you every step of the way to uncover what has been preventing you from setting boundaries, healing core wounds and limiting beliefs that will support you in stepping into your POWER, getting clear on your authentic boundaries, how to set those boundaries and speak your truth.

This program aims to LIBERATE you from past hurts and bring you into the NOW where you can transform your relationship with yourself and others, release the people pleasing tendencies and shift to feeling empowered and confident, as well as to deepen your capacity for authentic connection with yourself and others.

I also struggled with setting personal boundaries for many years, by showing up for myself and doing the inner work I have managed to transform my life in more ways than one including my relationship to self and others.

My capacity to connect with others and feel safe in letting others in has shifted exponentially since doing this work and I am so excited to guide and support you on this journey to declaring your worthiness.

And now I'm here to serve you and show you the exact steps so that you can take the smoother more direct path to setting personal boundaries and transforming your relationships.

Boundaries are the limits we set for ourselves and in our relationships with others..

IS FOR YOU

if you desire to…

✹ Reclaim your personal power and set boundaries with confidence and ease

✹ Release people pleasing tendencies and start filling up your own cup so you can feel nourished, taken care of and strong within yourself

✹ Create healthy, nourishing relationships that fill you up and empower you!

✹ Release the fears, stories and conditioning that has prevented you from setting boundaries and speaking your truth

✹ Discover your authentic expression and have the ability to express yourself with confidence and ease.

✹ Cultivate a deep sense of worthiness within yourself and inner knowing that you and your boundaries DESERVE to be respected

✹ Boost your energy levels and mental clarity so you can live a full, joyous life.

✹ Join an incredible community and journey alongside other amazing women who are also on a journey of self-discovery, personal transformation and reclamation of their personal power.

I recently attended Monique’s Boundary workshop online. Growing up in a family that has communication challenges, I certainly was willing to try out a new approach.

Monique’s sensitive and calm approach to a new way of relating is changing my life on a daily basis. Thanks Monique for your patience & kindness.

- KATHLEEN

Monique, I love your energy, your vibe and the way that you have held, supported and cheered me on through these past weeks. Thank you for creating this amazing container.

I joined ABL because I was feeling that all my life I have been a "yes" girl, and in turn ended up depleting myself completely. My 3 biggest takeaways for this program are to honour me first, that it's okay to say "no", I have a voice, and my words are meant to be heard, PLUS a myriad of more self worth tools!!!

The way Monique delivers the program is absolutely fantastic! I am using the RAW app everyday to tap into what I feel I need for that day. Having lifetime access to the ABL is just so calming, knowing I can go into there anytime when I need it - and it's all in one place!

- TONIA

Being supported in this beautiful authentic boundaries container by Monique and everyone else really helps me feel confident to go deeper on this self discovery journey.

Learning that others are on their own journey and listening to what they are going through is very supportive and creates a real sense of community.

3 biggest takeaways

That boundary setting all starts with me and my ability to work through the layers and show up for myself.
The more time I make for myself and use the practices provided to create a stronger connection with my heart and body the clearer everything I am needing/wanting for my life becomes!
Communication that comes from the heart with myself and others is key.

- JUSTINE

Initially I join to understand the concept of boundaries deeper, for myself and as extension for others as it was a recurrent subject. I also wanted to communicate it kindly, rather than throwing it at others. I wanted to feel more empowered, to let go of the fear of being rejected if I wouldn’t comply with others requirements,

My 3 biggest takeaways from ABL are a deeper feeling of safety, more acknowledgment and acceptance of my “negative” feelings, and learning to hold compassionate space for my process to arise.

Thank you for your support, I dropped much deeper within myself and feel the benefit for it in my own personal and professional situation. You’re amazing xx

- VALESKA

Hello, I’m Monique but you can call me Mon..

I am deeply passionate about supporting others to come home to their authentic selves, and fullest expression, and thrive in their relationships.

For years, I struggled with accepting myself as I truly was. I felt lost, disconnected, and consumed by fear—fear of judgment, of not fitting in, and the relentless belief that I was never enough for anyone or anything.

I kept people at arm’s length, terrified of letting them see the real me. And when someone got too close, I would sabotage the relationship before they could uncover the parts of me I was so ashamed of. Trapped in a cycle of emotional overwhelm and hopelessness, I couldn’t see a way out.

But that pain eventually became my catalyst for change.

I began exploring emotional expression, somatic healing, and embodiment practices—tools that slowly brought me back to myself. These became the foundation of my work today.

I supports my clients and students to reconnect to their authentic self, reclaim their personal power, express themselves authentically and unapologetically, and build conscious, harmonious relationships.

I have worked with thousands of people over the years in person and online through my workshops, programs, coaching and retreats.

It is my mission to support as many humans as possible to come home to wholeness within themselves and create togetherness within their families and communities by first embracing ALL of themselves and their human experience.

ABOUT MONIQUE CARMELA